Once known as a sentimental and meaningful task is now nothing more than a glorified chore thanks to movies and TV shows such as Mean Girls, Virgin Territory, and Easy A. Yep, you guessed it-losing your virginity.
Its a sad world we live in when a teenage girl loosing her phone is more dramatic than her losing her virginity, which seems to be the case more often than not-its like a check point on the list of life that women feel the need to get accomplished the first time they get a "serious" boyfriend. What happened to morals, or 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 which says:"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor?" What happened to setting boundaries and waiting for someone who truly loves you- your soul mate, a person you're going to spend the rest of your life with? Teenage girls and women in this day and age need to stop demanding attention and demand respect-stop posting selfies of your "post workout" to get likes in your sports bra and spandex and post a photo of you and your family, stop seeking out ways to catch a mans eye only to complain that he is "creepy". A man's perception of you is the perception you allow him to have by the way you dress, present your self on social media, and conduct yourself in social situations-so remember you are the only one to blame when you are labeled as unfavorable words.
Why is it now socially acceptable to be looked down on for being chaste? Just the other day I was watching an old episode of Grey's Anatomy where a group of doctors were making fun of a 28 year old resident who was still a virgin-this upset me, so much to the point to where I wanted to jump into the show and defend the woman for staying true to her morals. I disturbed me that waiting until marriage in this day in age is anything but idealistic for the majority of teenage girls and women. In a recent conversation I had with a family member she admitted that she had only ever had sex with one man in her life: her husband, and if given the chance, she wouldn't change that. I felt such astonishment at the beauty of this statement because of the simple fact that I still believe that should be the ultimate goal for every woman.
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| Waiting until marriage should be the ultimate goal as it once was in "the olden days". |
I was taught from a very young age not only the dangers and consequences of sex, but also the importance and preciousness of your virginity which "is a gift from God and can never be replaced once taken", so at the age of about 14 or 15 I made the conscious decision to wait until marriage-without the help of a purity ring because I felt that my decision was between God, my parents, and myself and I did not need a piece of jewelry to define that promise for me. I have stuck true to my promise and will continue to wait until marriage through college and here is why every other teenage girl or young woman should too:
1) No Big Scares or Awkward Moments
The thought of peeing on a stick or visiting the Gyno never has to cross your mind because if you're not sexually active, you have no risks of getting pregnant or contracting an STD.
2) You're More Desirable
Men and women of all kinds will respect you, want to emulate you, and seek to praise you in your efforts of remaining pure.
3) A Weed Out Process is Guaranteed
Once you've made the decision to wait until marriage, your answer will remain the same when you play "20 Questions" or you're looking to date a new boy and he wants to know "how far you've gone with a boy". Being up front with a man about not having sex with him will either drive him away because he was only after one thing-or keep him around for the simple pleasures of your company; leaving only gentlemen for you to date.
4) Mental Toughness is Created
Not giving into the pressure of friends, society, and a man who you may or may not be in love with is a powerful thing that can translate into other aspects of your life such as: physical fitness, work loads, and other trying obstacles in life.
5) You Learn Patience
Relationships come and go, and while they are all learning experiences you either learn to move on to the next person, or wait until your wedding night because after all: "Love is patient, and love is kind."
6) Judgement and Regret Are Minimized
Life throws so many things at you that you could end up placing in a negative life and regretting-so why let either the amount of men, or character of a man you slept with be added to that list? If you can control one piece of life, why wouldn't you choose too? Also, if you don't have a record of who you have or haven't slept with, its one less thing for people to judge you on. Besides, its bad enough we get a dirty look for not having the latest Michael Kors bag or knowing all the details to the latest Real Housewives episode.
In a world dictated and run by what society deems acceptable, a society where a quest to lose ones virginity is televised, and to an extent mocked (as depicted in MTV's latest show: Virgin Territory, why be labeled as average? Statistics say the average person loses their virginity at age 17-be the living proof of unique, don't be labeled as a statistic, and teach your daughters, sisters, friends and brothers to remember 1st Timothy 4:12 which says:"Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity," and let that be a mantra to live on for ages.
