In the "olden days", young adults would meet one another at public places, muster up the confidence to talk to one another, and ask for their number. From then on, they would call one another, set up a time and place to meet, and begin a series of face to face interaction called dating. I have found all too often, that this no longer exists.
There is no form of courtship nowadays, rather than a phone call, or even a detailed text, many girls receive a text saying along the lines of: "Hey, want to maybe meet up sometime for drinks?" Instead of a specific day and time, men use "maybe" out of fear of rejection, and rather than choosing a personal, "date like" setting, men choose a nonchalant setting, with a nonchalant time, thus demonstrating no form of real interest to the woman they are going after. Its rare for a man in this generation to treat a woman like a priority rather than another option on a roster of women.
How does one expect to find a quality partner, a possible spouse, or even long term relationship in general if the outlet they met through was a screen? How credible is a photograph or information on a app? How does a woman know that "the amazing bar Josh took her too" wasn't the same place he took all 40 of his other Tinder matches too? Why seek out possible mates through an app deemed "only for hook ups?" Why start a relationship over insecurity of other hook-ups, and why risk cheating being a factor due to apps such as Tinder?
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| Dating Apps such as Tinder are the reason that the courtship between men and women no longer exists. |
For the most part, I believe the "Hook Up Generation" exists because it is low-risk, and convenient. There is no formal commitment of a "going steady" title, no obligations, no heartbreak if it doesn't work out, and no certainty of anything, really.
Its time for young adults and college students to stop being scared and lazy when it comes to dating. How many relationships are low-risk and convenient? None. Every relationship you get into will either end in heartbreak or marriage, its part of the experience, so if you want to meet "The One", get out there and act like it. Put down the iPhone and converse with one another in a face-to-face environment. Delete Tinder and see how many singles you might find just by frequenting your local places such as parks, restaurants, concert venues, church, and even stores. God will place a perfect person in each and every life, we need not seek out people so feverishly, and most likely, we certainly won't find the perfect person with the best intentions on an app centered around hook ups.
Once this generation rids themselves of these poor digital dating habits, tough exteriors and realize that the rest of the world is out there, we just may actually find "The One."
